Expect what is not

Expect the unexpected. A common phrase said by people to others that are suffering a surprised situation. Ignorant(s), or careless people (Yes I just categorised humans) would say, doesn't that make the unexpected the expected? No. A straight no, this is no matter of opinion, but of fact and logic.

This is not a matter of taking the phrase literally, but in fact to see it in such a way that it makes sense. I'll jump straight into it then. Expect the unexpected. Expect is the action we're supposed to do or rather feel about something that's coming. While unexpected is something surprising, something... most possibly that will catch us off guard.

That was the literal terms. Now, what I meant that it is not a simple 'then the unexpected is expected' is because that's not how our brain works. It is in fact to create a landing pad or something that's coming.. To be prepared. To have a defense mechanism or a wall of protection to absorb something that you wouldn't be usually be prepared for. Okay, for some cases the 'unexpected' is something opposite, instead of a yes answer, it's a no. What if it was a problem that has been building for a while? Even years?

Easier (will be) said than done. It is to create possible scenarios of the situation in which you are in. Jot it down on a paper to remember. Anything to get your head working on the situation. This will then create an imagery that you will think through for a time being and make you think 'what if I do this, what will happen?' or 'what if I do that, will she answer?'. The outcomes are variable and there are a lot of possibilities to everything. Hence the phrase is made.

Expect the unexpected. A phrase that will make your mind work through tens of scenarios that you hope to happen. A phrase, if triggered, will conjure up a current situation into possible branching scenarios. That is how to expect the unexpected.

What is trust in a word of idiocy?

We have all thought to ourselves; who can we trust? Who is relevant for us to tell this information to?

We all have that deep secret of ours that we don’t want to tell anyone, but with time, we'll want to relieve it out of our head and just let it flow out. We can't just ventilate it to any random friend in case of our greatest fear; they tell the world. Then how? How do we know who to trust that we can tell anything or everything about?

Everyone has their own little criteria; then again, we have lived with people who would have reasons why we can't tell them anything. I usually just give up and tell no one. Yet, there is a way to ventilate emotions that have built up inside, in the process of what I call, redefinition of trust.

I used to think that to trust someone, they should be aware of your situation. That didn't change, another thing is that they have lived certain aspects of my (in this case; yours) life. Next, if they're helpful, then I can trust them. The latter two are variables that can change, and if there's only one of the two, that person to a certain extent, can be trustworthy. Now the last point is the specific or, in a cheesy aspect, special reason why I trust a person. For every person there's a different reason. Maybe for you, you like the person or that they're your best friend, therefore you trust them. For me, it's neither of the two (I'm letting you in on this one). It is in fact whether I'm comfortable around or talking to the person. Can they comfort me? Can or do they make me laugh happily? That's my call.

Back to redefinition (this is not a definition from the dictionary or anything). Now take any two of the points that I've mentioned; (about the person)

• Awareness of your situation
• Lived certain aspects of your life with you
• Helpful
• Or the 'specific reasoning'

Choose any two (or 3) of these (keep in mind you have more reasons than this) and apply it to a person you want to rant to and if these two (or 3) or the entire criteria match, then they're applicable in this 'redefinition of trust'.

What next? That’s what you're wondering right now. Next step is to hold your ground. Hold it and take a breather, think back of what you're ventilating about, backtrack your problems, or whatever it is. After all you don't want to end up ranting about irrelevant things or other things that are not supposed to be told. Besides, this person that you applied to isn't liable to everything. You can't tell or burden him/her with all your, let's say, memory extraction. It's only a part of your secret.

Basically the point of trusting a person is to let things out, but not in this case. This one, you only tell them a part of your memory extraction, not all of it, unless you're sure... In this way you relieve pressure bit by bit.

The next phase is to do the same things (doesn't have to be applied with the same reason) but to a different person, and tell them another side of your story. Right now you're thinking, this is harsh, and that you are (or my technique is) using people to your own good. Well if you've been through shit, you wouldn't care less. No, I'm kidding, not really. In any way this isn't mean, this is relieving your stress, and making people feel trusted, a win-win situation.

P.S If I were you, the different people that you trust shouldn't be close friends or anything, or else they can share their side of their story and catch you red handed, even though that will be funny. Dark humour right there.

So, what exactly is the redefinition of trust? It is manipulating one's own doubts or stresses to be expressed little by little to certain points of one's life* to relieve one's pressure from an existing problem and avoid being judged.

Now this is a different article over all, I don't even know the link with this and the title. Basically at times like this, in a world like ours, it i s rare to find one so trustworthy and reliable.

As a last touch; now, tell me what your reasons to trust a person are. Be anonymous, DMs, inboxes, anything.

*meaning that the different people probably experienced different sides of one's life

--There may be cases of paranoia after this where people think others are burdened by their problems. I don't blame you. But Hey, if anything, I'm here! No burdens at all!