I'm sure every person would like to see everything as an overall, despite themselves not realising it because of the usual human's virtue of being selfish and very, very oblivious to what is not theirs. I don't blame anyone for that, I know for once I'm selfish... On some cases. Anyway, moving on, it is very normal then to find yourself finding out about something which makes you think 'this has been happening all my life and I didn't notice it'. Because sometimes it is such a normality that you think it happens to everyone.
Where am I getting with this you may ask. There are no exact ways as to how can you see everything widely, more or less in a third person perspective. Putting yourself in someone's shoes is another common phrase we hear to emphasise a feeling where we would not usually feel, to create the audience think again. It is very much like that, but this time it's more like 'put yourself in everyone's shoes'.
I will not go down the 'go look in your heart' road. This is just a stimulus to start seeing the world differently. I know from other people that (who's already done so) they see this bubble we're in very differently to me. Some through their own eyes but with a sympathetic approach. There are many ways to it, but there's always a few key points (that are the same) to every variable.
- Being honest to yourself
- Evaluate every move and action. Even possible or future actions.
- Put yourself in their shoes simultaneously.
By being honest, I mean being honest. Accept who you are. Be who you are. On some occasions, we know that we try to fit in right? Where we'd lie to convince friends that you're good enough for them, or you're the same as them. This is a no-no. "I like cars and mechanics, they like sports. Don't try to fit in, be proud" This is the kind of thought you should put into yourself. Don't ever, ever try to convince yourself otherwise.
Evaluating is by seeing it to every detail. What would happen if I didn't choose this path? What other paths are there anyway? Now what? These various questions, which of course you have to have an answer to, even illogical ones, will lead to a level of understanding where there are many possibilities that you may have reached within the thought of impossibilities. Say, you think that being able to do something like sports is impossible to you. As you progress on, choosing your path away from it, you will find that crack that proves you wrong. So on your next move, be very very (sorry) f****** careful. Regret is not the first thought you think of after the first 3 moves. I think I've covered about evaluation, which I called analysing consequences.
Say you heard the news about conflicts in a country continents away, a bombing in your country, a congressman being elected in another. Put yourself in every person you can see's shoes. For the conflicts, think if you were the leader and the rebels. The bombing, see yourself in the terrorists' shoes, the victims, and your leaders' shoes to see how you would solve such a problem. In the elections, see yourself as the person's citizen's, workers, the congressman himself, or the whole country's reaction to it. It is a tough task when said and done.
This way you are able to see that your well-being is very insignificant, yet very very significant. As a whole you may not make a change at all, but in your own community you can make the biggest change. You see when you have learnt such ways, you will build a nature against hatred, regrets and negative temptations, and become more patient, composed and decisive. Yes there are still wrong turns that you will take, but you will learn to fix it very smoothly and swiftly like nothing ever happened. Nobody is perfect, neither is the world a perfect sphere. That doesn't mean you cannot understand the Earth's orbit and axis, or a person's reaction and behaviour.
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