What changes a man, changes a man back.

I think we all know the damned common phrase "People change". We are all fully aware of it, directly, or not we are affected by it. What is it that changes a person? This question is uncommon, because we usually shrug it off and be biased saying, "He changed, not me". Or “She did”

Here's the thing, are we sure only one party change? Why don't we ask ourselves, did we change ourselves? I mean, surely if people can change, so can we. Either by how we want a particular person to be, or we just change to adapt to something we’re not used to; like moving places, making new people. Sometimes we don’t even notice that we’ve changed. So do we still think it’s only ‘him/her’ that changed?

No. let’s take one simple situation, you’ve had differences with your best friend, and now you barely talk. What happened was, you had an opinion, ad your friend the exact opposite opinion, and you guys argue about it. Now the question is whose fault? It’s ambiguous right?

Now, when you’re aware of the amount of changes happening everyday around you, you’ll be aware of changes in people close to you, or even yourself. At times or another, you’ll be criticized saying you’ve changed, and then trying too hard to change back just to make it worse.

Until this point, you’re thinking this post don’t make sense, and you’ll think you won’t understand, but one day, it’ll happen to you, and you’ll get it.

Anyway, well now you’ve tried changing yourself back everything comes crashing down and from bare talks to no talking at all. It’ll happen, some can be changed back, some can’t. but not permanently.

In fact, these little changes are daily impacts on us that we may shrug it off, but then think about it and get all stressed out about it. You’ll be asking, why is the title so irrelevant, point is, whatever changes you, then that exact same thing WILL change you again, either back to who you were (yes its possible) or to something you never thought you can ever be, in both perspective, positive and/or negative.

"First love never dies"

So, I was in a discussion with a friend, and we hit that subject, something about love, and she asked me an opinion on it, and now, I'm going to write what I think of it.

'First love never dies' some of us have heard this some time in our lives right? from anywhere, a book, movies, anything. well anyway, i think it's true, first love, or the feeling towards first love will never die, in the case that, it actually was love.

Well, okay, if you're in your teens, you've come across a crush or maybe a relationship. Break-ups happen right? even if it was a 'perfect' match, it happens. So, as much time as it takes, if you don't go back, you'll move on eventually, and maybe forget, that's bad, but if not, then just moved on. Be honest, after moving on, you'd actually still have feeling towards that person, or who they were at the time. So what happens next?

Well, most of us would, in nature of humans, find a replacement right? now here where it starts, you'd probably still frequently think of that, first person you loved. So you're probably looking for someone who's LIKE them or SIMILAR to them. Well, if you don't get it, read it again.. because that 'first love' never died, you're looking for a NEW her, or him right? you'll alway look for someone who acts like that first one, who talks, who likes, who looks like that first one.

Okay I said well a lot, so, here it goes, now that you know what I think, I don't know about your opinion or maybe you don't believe it happens, maybe when someone moves one, they forget, but that' your opinion, and I can totally understand and am not against it, so thanks for reading! :D

What is love, and why is it?

So this is a text I wrote about the belief people have towards 'love' some people believe in it, some, may not. I thank these two people who had the conversation (i won't mention names, this is the internet.) or may I say argument (?) about it, and it inspired me to write this.

First things first, what exactly do people mean by 'love'? Well, it really is the same as 'like'. It's the feeling of attraction. When you say you 'like' something, you're, in a way, attracted to it. It can apply to anything, doesn't have to be a person. You like food. You like shopping. You like watching TV. You like sports. You name it...

On the other hand, I think this articles is focused on the attraction towards others, towards another specific one being. The opposite gender.

Then the topic of relationship comes in. Love. Falling in love. Love at first sight. Now, a lot of people are in a relationship because they 'fall in love'. The question is, do they know what love really is? Some people just do it for the sake of being in a relationship, or because their friends have a relationship, they don't want to be alone.

Anyway, back to the topic of discussion, does love exist? Personally, I think it does exist, to everyone, but then comes if it is mutual, I still believe it does, but only if it's mutual. Love at first sight? No, I don't believe in it, it's just stupid.

Okay, maybe love at first sight do exist, but its next to nothing, I'm not saying only 'chosen' people get it, I mean out of 7 billion people, you can't just meet your love of your life out of nowhere. Love has its sciences, or as we commonly know it as, chemistry between two people.

Love. It really is a strong word, and specifically, like I mentioned before, we're talking love in a relationship or towards a specific person. Why or how we fall in love? I don't know, that's just what we personally feel.

So, I've said before, this article was inspired after two friends of mine had the conversation, or "tweetation"? It was within two sides, one who believed that love do not exist, or that it only apply to lucky people, and the other one was that, love do exist, even if it is not mutual.

There are no wrongs, both side has it's rights, but we'll look at it from a neutral perspective, or maybe you guys can say from my personal perspective. yeah, don't judge.

If only lucky people fall in love, does that make God choosy about who will meet their love, and out of more than half-a-dozen billion people only these 'lucky' people can feel the real feeling of love? No, right? I don't think so too. There's not really, lets say, 'perfect matches', that out of almost 7 billion people there's only one perfect person for you.

As much as I believe love exists, I think that it's by the finding the right person with similarities, to you and someone you can relate to, and then making him/her perfect for you. So in short, it can be anyone. The guy/girl next door, or the guy/girl across the country.

And let's remember, love is not all about looks, or the background of a person, or race. It's about who they really are. deep inside, their personality.

On the other hand, I think I already brushed the topic in the previous paragraph(s) by saying 'making him/her perfect for you'. But if love isn't mutual then it's nothing. Yes you're attracted towards a person, but it just doesn't work. It's still in the 'law of attraction' (quoted; The Secret to Teen Power-Paul Harrington)

I mean, if feelings are not mutual, it will be disastrous. it's not love at all, it's just attraction. Out of topic, imagine a president and his military-in-charge. The President wants to conquer a country by war but the military-in-charge (still feels the same way) only wants to spy the country, no harm done. They'll get themselves in deep argument that may lead to a conflict between the two, then a civil war. So personally, I don't think non-mutual feelings can be described as 'love towards a person', but of course, your opinion matters.

So, love do exist. I don't think anyone will disagree after this, and it applies to everyone out there, everyone. No race, background, or origin can prevent anyone 'falling in love'.

of course this argument or belief do not apply to those who change partners as often as they change their clothes, I mean that's just ridiculous.

With love comes great responsibility. (Yes I copied that from a quote)

Consequences like heartbreak; betrayal, loss, hopeless. This may as well happen, as much as we made that particular person 'perfect'. As I said, love isn't just with 'that one special person'. You may not be really clutched with the first person, and then change one after another. but certainly still your choice of person.

I mean one person to one person is not like a puzzle piece that can only be put around 2, 3, 4 or maybe only one other piece. I think it's more like a rubix cube. There are 8 other colours that are the same to you. You maybe alone surrounded by other colours(people) or you can be sticking with one or two other same-colour pieces, but then the cube revolves and you're in a different position. and it will be really difficult to actually make it up to all 9 of you together, then really finding out who's next to you.

For what I lost is what I loved the most.

This was a sonnet I made for an English class.

Dew in the morning are like tears dropping

You left me with none, empty promise

You beautiful thing beat the stars shining

You shine brighter, than the summer solstice

You and I can start a new adventure

whatever we left behind was the past

this time, our relationship will be sure

our love will live forever at last

I feel this as true, but you have no clue

then will you care to join me under the rain

count the drops; that's as much as I love you

We will devote ourselves, like clothe with no stain

We've no doubts and are peaceful as white doves

those who ask will believe in real true love

A sonnet, if you didn't know, is about something you like/love, or anything to do with that, well this is one I made.

When there's a comeback.

I know this is only the second post, and the gap between the first post is 4 months, I haven't been updating much.

Well, there have been a lot to tell. I don't know where to start.

I don't know, let's start when I started being careless about the world, I wasn't depressed I tell you, I just stopped caring about anything. Let's see, I started ignoring school work, ignore some people, ignore almost everything. I know I'm stuck-up of the past, but I'm really scared to let it go.

Anyway, I'm back now, whoever reads this, I hope you won't judge, and would just understand how the world around us is, it's not perfect. When you're with friends, take a break and look around your friends for a while, do you think they're all really happy, maybe even after they came out before. Think again.

Not long ago, I got to know this person, she told me I remind herself of..well, herself, because on a social website, my statuses are well, depressed. So she told me, that if I ever need help, she's good with advices, so I did the same. After that, we got to know each other, and so on.
This event taught me that, the world's a big place, and there are a lot, and when I mean a lot, millions of them, that are not genuinely happy. And I kept thinking, I like her, because she's been strong all this time and never gave up. for her strength, her will to go on.

And that's when I came to my senses, I used to be the guy with advices, but ending up as the one who needs support and advices. now I'm probably in between. dead in the inside.

So here's the thing, never judge a person because of who they really are, love them for it, you never know why they became like that, in this case, damaged. hurt.

I'm going out there, show society there's someone who can beat it, and make the world a better place to live.